As a parent, you are also a leader. You are called to be your child’s primary Christian leader; you will be the one they watch the most, the one they look up to, and the one they listen to even when you think they are not. That’s a lot of pressure. Pressure to perform, pressure to be “right” before God, pressure to be someone your child wants to look up to.
Or maybe there is no pressure to be any of those things, but rather a call to be irrelevant, completely insignificant, with nothing to offer.
“The Christian leader of the future is called to be completely irrelevant and to stand in this world with nothing to offer but his or her own vulnerable self – the unadorned self in which [you] are completely vulnerable, open to receive and give love regardless of any accomplishments.” – In the Name of Jesus, by Henri Nouwen
Wasn’t it Jesus who gave up his place in heaven, came to earth, and humbled himself on a cross to the point of death? Jesus is the best example of an irrelevant leader who was open to receive and give love. He did not need to prove himself, he simply shared his life and love with all God’s children.
As a parent you are the most prevalent Christian leader in your child’s life, called to be irrelevant and called to share nothing but your true self, stripped bare, broken, and changed by God’s love. Don’t waste another minute trying to be perfect. Simply be the imperfect, irrelevant leader that your child needs, sharing life, love, and grace in every moment and in every way regardless of accomplishments or lack of them.
Helping you help your kids to live the way of Jesus,
The MHK Staff